My Perfect Man!!

Well Hello Lovely People

I hope you have had a wonderful week!  We had a fantastic mini break in Rotorua but it is always good to get home isn't it.  Even though I seem to be faced with a bomb site and mounds of washing. I am not even sure where all the mess came from...anyway I digress!!  Who wants to talk about washing what a dreary blog that would be!

So I was thinking today, or rather daydreaming about my ideal man...you know if you could tailor make yourself a fellar from scratch...wouldn't that be a blast! I decided my ideal man would start off (obviously) with my mega crush David Tennant.  I love a man with talent. I have a friend who is a simply beautiful when he plays the piano and whenever I watch him play I fall a little more in love with him....can't help myself.   Sorry back to reality (yeah right) David Tennant for his talent, hair and of course as my daughter pointed out his ability to travel through space and time.  (I didn't have the heart to break it to her!)

Now if you put a little bit of fictional superhero then my new muse 'Oliver Queen' from the action packed new series 'Arrow' is perfect.  Who doesn't want a man who can pick you up and hold you close like Olly can....yum.  Plus you gotta love a man fighting for good against evil and righting the worlds wrongs.

This is going to be a very strange man by the time I have finished!  Next I would throw in some Mr Darcy, preferably of the Colin Firth variety.  Mr Darcy appeals for his old fashioned values, manners, etiquette and his intelligence.  Mr Darcy's image is obviously helped along somewhat by the gorgeous actor Colin Firth.

Next I think I would add (gosh it really does sound like a recipe!) a little bit of spy in the form of Mr Bond, Mr Spooks Man or either guy from Strikeback(!!).  Reason.....well just because really! There is something that just rings my bell when it comes to spies, action heroes and espionage!!  I know totally fictitious characters but sexy men.  

No pouty lip comments please Jen ;-)

Now for the maturity after all it's no fun dating men who haven't grown up yet!  For this part of my perfect man recipe their can be only one man for the job.  The gorgeous Martin Shaw...I know he's old enough to be my Dad but he is just yummy. Comes across as a real gentle man in interviews and he seems real old school which I just love. 

Then I need a bit of cuddleness in the form of Jason Segal, is cuddleness a word?!  My spell check doesn't like it but I don't care cuddleness is the only word that works here!!  Not really a muscle loving girl, I like strength but not so much muscle.

Then on top of all that he has to have the faith, kindness and loving I see in my own Dad....awww

So to sum up my perfect man then it looks like he needs to be a cuddly, talented shakespearian actor who can play the piano, travel through space and time dressed in period costume.  Who moonlights as a spy during the day and is a crime fighting superhero at night.  He needs to be older, good looking with impeccable manners, warm, kind, considerate, loving and to top it off a man of faith who doesn't mind dating a woman carrying a few extra pounds, who is only 5"4 and has two kids under 7 :-) Doable?  I think so!! 

Now I know what I am looking for perhaps it's time to start a new dating profile.....yeah right (in the words of the Tui Ads!!)  Would be kind of fun though to put that in my dating profile, although I have the strangest feeling I would never get a single email!!   

I love daydreaming though don't you?  It's something I have been great as since I was a child and an ability I have not lost as an adult.  My teachers at school told me off for it on a regular basis!  

As you can see my lovely readers I am totally moving on and getting on with my life and picking up the pieces!  I even made the effort to shave my legs today, blunted two razors to do it but I did it.  The woolly mammoth look wasn't suiting me, the whole natural thing.....hmm didn't feel that natural!  I have at least stopped sulking and my smile has returned.  How could it not with my new Mr Right just waiting to meet me and he does sound rather delicious does he not?!

Well had better hit the sack I have an early start tomorrow. Goodnight all and have a great weekend!

Kate x

You have to laugh...

You have to laugh when dining out on Mother's Day at the Gengy's in Rotorua when the CD player gets stuck repeating the song 'All by myself, don't wanna be all by myself'  then if that isn't bad enough once it finally moves onto the next song (after 3 repeats) we get 'I will survive' followed by bloody ABBA 'The Winner Takes it All' .  I actually got a fit of the giggles, I think my kids thought I was slightly insane!!  Life is a funny old thing isn't it.  You just got to keep laughing :-)

Unlucky in Love....

It was a hard decision to blog on this topic but so many of you keep asking how the big romance is going.

After seven wonderful months it's all over and I didn't even see it coming.  Feeling a little less raw about it after a fantastic week away with my girls in Rotorua and decided it was time to put pen to paper or rather fingers to keyboard!
  
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So what happened?  Well I have been asking myself the same question all week.  I went into hospital as you know, with a huge amount of support from the man in question.  In fact I even threw a wobbly about the situation a week or so before the operation and gave him an exit, which he absolutely and completely refused stating he was patient and would be incredibly supportive during my operation and rehab.  So what happened?  I can't tell you I am still processing it myself.

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All I know is three weeks into my rehab I start getting strange texts that clearly were telling me he was having cold feet.  We sent texts backwards and forwards as I became more and more convinced something was seriously up, I am not sure why but I checked the online dating site where we first met.  I can't tell you how disappointed and sad I felt to see him staring back at me or how crap it made me feel.  I told him it was obviously over and he told me not to read anything into him rejoining the DATING site. How can you not read anything into it??!!  Or is just me that thinks joining a dating site whilst you are dating someone is a really crap thing to do and that it's a pretty clear sign that they don't want to be dating the said person anymore.

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His reasons seemed to be loneliness and an inability to see me more for the last month.  I have a feeling though it had more to do with dating a woman with two young kids, even though he was fantastic with them I am not sure it's where he saw his life going.  What ever the reasons it wasn't meant to be and that's no ones fault just comes down to compatibility.  It's just always the way these things end that makes you feel crappy because really when you think about it, if a person doesn't want to be with you why be upset about it, they are doing you a favour really. 

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At the end of the day if it was meant to be it would have been.  I am not angry anymore just sad and I hate that once again I am back in a place where I feel betrayed and hurt by a man.  He wasn't the love of my life but it doesn't hurt any less although it may well be my pride that hurts so much :-)  My kids are affected too and they miss them.  A good lesson in not introducing your children to your new partner....EVER!!!  Well maybe after a few years ;-)

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So back to being single, I suppose that's a fundamental difference between men and women, I couldn't even vaguely contemplate going back out on the dating scene right now.  Some time to heal is in order and this holiday with my beautiful babies is a great start.  The thought of already being on a dating site so soon getting back out there.....I just couldn't do it, as I say the difference between men and women perhaps and the way we process situations differently.

I really enjoyed having someone in my life again, someone to go to the cinema with even if we did have terrible luck choosing films, dinner, sharing pudding and a wonderful holiday where for the first time in a long time I saw a future blossoming with another person once more...C'est la Vie.  There is so much I will miss about this man but the upside is that I can finally hang up our tent and never go bloody camping again because you know what I bloody hate camping!!!  There is nothing fun about it, it's cold, uncomfortable, it's not remotely romantic and you come home feeling worse than when you went away and grubby into the bargain.  I would rather not go on another holiday in my life than ever go camping again!! 

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Explaining to my kids was hard but they took it really well. Rosie well most things go over her head still but Charli's reaction was as usual just wonderful ' Ah don't worry Mum you have me and Rosie and we love you lots and lots and lots and anyway you're going to marry Dr Who, then we can go travelling in space and time instead of camping which would be much more fun'  a girl after my own heart....how I love my girls they are better than any relationship in the world.  Two totally awesome little people, you are the centre of my world and always will be. Although David Tennant would make a lovely addition to our little family :-)

So when will I get back out there?  Well for now I will be hanging up my high heels and putting down my lipstick and for now I am just going to enjoy life and my kids.  Maybe I will give the online dating thing a go again but for now I have had enough to last me a while.   With a family and good friends around me my life is good, I don't need a man in my life to make me happy or complete I have everything I need right here.  When I am ready perhaps I will try speed dating or singles nights who knows!!  At least I know I put myself out there and in time perhaps I will again.

Goodnight folks!

Kate x